If you harbor ill will toward your child's home country, how will that affect your child?

I'm just curious. I saw a comment a few minutes ago that made me think, if you have harsh feelings, or even iffy feelings, about the country your child was born in, what would that do to the child? How would that feel as a child, or adult adoptee, to hear from your parents, ';well, your homeland is crap';, or something like that?If you harbor ill will toward your child's home country, how will that affect your child?
They should try to focus on the positive things in that country instead of the negative. It is like talking bad about others around your children. People seem to forget that kids absorb everything they hear and if you bad-mouth the country they were born in they may take it that their parents don't care for them.If you harbor ill will toward your child's home country, how will that affect your child?
I would imagine it would be very detrimental to the child's self worth and sense of self.





I am a DJ who does parties for the Asian/American society. They are so proud to be in the USA, and love their country, yet they are also proud of the heritage they have, and they keep it alive in their dances, their costumes, and their foods. If I ever adopt a child from an Asian nation (I'm presently trying to be a foster to adopt family in the USA), I'd definately take the child to these meetings, both to learn more, and so they can see the beautiful culture behind them. Many different nationalities have these types. As an American from European descent, I've never seen our culture follow much of the old country festival, except for Germans having beer festivals. Perhaps we all might benefit from knowing where we came from. Knowing that our parents couldn't stand our home country would hurt very much. If I did the home study on the parents trying to adopt, and saw them flutter on a question like, ';what do you think of country XYZ';, I wouldn't allow the adoption.
I answered a question about that some months back. There was a PAP going through the process of adopting from China and was having some trouble rationalizing her anger toward China's political policies in light of the adoption. She wondered about whether she was able to separate the two.





My response to her was that it is vital that aparents do not badmouth the children's country of birth. It's a pretty simple logic here: China is bad. I am from China, therefore I am bad.





I advised her to search for the good in the country and the culture and focus on that. Aparents shouldn't badmouth a child's country of birth any more than they should badmouth their parents of birth.
I think it would deeply affect your child.





Kind of like when parents aren't getting along, and one of them says something like, ';You remind me of your Father!'; to their child.





That country is the child's history, his natural family is all there. Never talk bad about a child's country of origin.





Thumbs down? Well you all can tell your child(ren) whatever, but my son is going to be proud of his country of origin and proud of where he came from. :-)
I agree with Ted for once.


It would be the same as telling a visiting foreigner their country bites. They will develop disdain for the person pointing it out to build themselves or their case up. I can see alot of hurt adoptee's going back to their motherland in search of their mother. I just feel sorry for what they're going to uncover when this tragic event happens especially in countries like Honduras and Guatemala.
The child will probably feel unloved deep down, as if they are a charity case and not worthy themselves as a person.
I think it depens mostly on the childs age.





Ideally, a child's homeland is with his parents (assuming parents are actually parental, loving, caring, etc.).





A place of birth is just a regional assignment of where you came into the world. Physically born. But the acutal legal ';boarders'; we call ';countries'; are meaningless lines people draw on paper maps. Does this make sense?





Of couse, some countries are better than others. You don't see a lot of people traveling to columbia or haitii because it's quite frankly, dangerous. And some people don't like anyone different, and are very close minded or worse.





So yes, if a child is old enough to understand, then it's OK to have the conversation, as long as the child knows, and the parent teaches, the difference between what consitutes a HOME and what constitutes a Legal Country. These are very different.





Pure trash talking (like your Homeland is CraP) doesn't help anyone understand anything. I would hope parent can have a more intelligent and mentoring converstation than that for God's sake!!!!
I know lots of people who harbor ill will toward their MIL and even their husband. Doesn't generally have anything to do with the child.





I had to listen to my mom carry on and on because she hated the state where I grew up in. When my Dad had a job opportunity to move back, they did. Yes, it bothers me that she always puts down MY hometown and state, but what can you do? To hear her, if the entire state dropped off into the ocean, she would just be so happy. You avoid bringing up the subject after awhile and just accept that people have opinions that they won't budge from, but they are not a reflection on you.





If you adopted a child from a country that you had iffy feelings about, focus on what is GOOD about the country and/or culture.

UFC- ILL WILL PREDICTIONS , ROUND etc. NEW STYLE?

These are not my predictions, just an example of how to post yours:





::MAIN EVENT::


UFC World Lightweight Championship Match


BJ Penn 漏 Vs. Sean Sherk - (11)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Wanderlei Silva Vs. Keith Jardine - (10)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Wilson Gouveia Vs. Goran Reljic - (9)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Tito Ortiz Vs. Lyoto Machida - (8)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Thiago Silva Vs. Antonio Mendes - (7)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Ivan Salaverry Vs. Rousimar Palhares - (6)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Rameau Sokoudjou Vs. Kazuhiro Nakamura - (5)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Rich Clementi Vs. Terry Etim - (4)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Jon Koppenhaver Vs. Yoshiyuki Yoshida - (3)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Jason Tan Vs. Dong Hyun Kim - (2)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1





Christian Wellisch Vs. Shane Carwin - (1)


** Decision: Knockout


** Round: 1UFC- ILL WILL PREDICTIONS , ROUND etc. NEW STYLE?
Too much stuff to type. :) but my predictions are: Wanderlei Silva


BJ Penn


Lyoto Machida


Thiago Silva


Nakamura








The rest I either haven't seen or haven't seen enough to be able to predict. But those are my predicted winners anyway.

When your dog or cat ill, by giving water mixed with sugar will heal them?

ahhh no ....If your pet is ill it may be caused by a range of different conditions and you should seek veterinary advice.When your dog or cat ill, by giving water mixed with sugar will heal them?
No sugar..When your dog or cat ill, by giving water mixed with sugar will heal them?
Generally it is not advisable to give them any food or drink until they have been examined by a vet.Water should be clean and fresh if given.
It really depends on what illness your pet has.


But dont just give your cat or dog sugar and milk find out more about whats wrong with them first.
Absolutely not. If your cat or dog is ill please get veterinary advice. You could so easily make things a lot worse with sugar lumps or sugar water. There are many illnesses that could be made worse by that. Please think of your animal's welfare and don't take short cuts or believe 'old wife's tales'. The animals have no choice and rely totally on us for help. Best of luck. Joan. UK
No, give them about a half teasepoon of pure sugar, no water.
take them to a vet. if your pet is throwing up, there may be other problems
Of course. Sugar is well known for his antibiotic powers.
no, take them to a vet if they are unwell
NO DO NOT GIVE THEM SUGER .THEIR BODY DONT PRODUCE INSULIN SO BY GIVING THEM SUGER YOU PUT THEM IN DANGER ASK THE VET ABOUT WHAT IVE JUST TOLD YOU
I don't think so no....
Whoever told you that is crazy, totally ignore it.


Water is good, if the animal wants it.


The best thing you can do is take it to a vet.


If the animal is acting odd, there is a reason for it and a veterinary specialist should be consulted.


Dogs and humans react differently to medications, so if you're thinking of giving it some over the counter meds...don鈥檛.


Find out what is wring, maybe it's nothing (they can have bad days also), or maybe it's something and needs treatment. If it鈥檚 been ill for more than a couple days鈥ee a vet.
idont suggest sugar essspeshly chocolat it can KILL the dog
NO SUGAR. PEROID.
NO IT WILL MAKE THEM MORE SICK. JUST LEAVE THEM TO THEIR OWN DEVICES TO GET WELL IF GETS WORSE CONTACT A VET!!!!

Ill be seeing a psycholgist soon for my anxitiy, what will they be doing?

just would like some idea of what test they will be doing and questions they will be asking.Ill be seeing a psycholgist soon for my anxitiy, what will they be doing?
He/She will ask about how you are feeling, and then ask how you get along with your family....any problems with Mom or Dad...


They will try to figure out how and why the anxiety started, and how often you have it....He may ask:


Is it panic attacks or generalized anxiety all the time?


The best thing you can do is to be as honest as possible. They want to help you, not judge, scold or give you any negative feelings about who you are, or how you feel.


If the therapist doesn't help you very much in several sessions, find a new one. Best of luck to you.


After several sessions, you and your therapist will more than likely figure out what started this condition, they also may put you on mild medication temporarily to help you....


My suggestion: Take the medication, it usually helps a lot.Ill be seeing a psycholgist soon for my anxitiy, what will they be doing?
They will try and determine what is causing your anxiety, Mine was from post traumatic stress.


There are so many causes and so many ways to treat it. No two people are exactly the same.


I was placed in hospital were they ran blood test, Xrays etc to rule out physical illness, every thing was fine ( what a relief.)


The doctor will just ask question to find out the best way to help you, They may place you on a medication, they also offer ways to deal with anxiety with relaxation techniques and distraction methods.


Sometimes I did not feel like talking and I had an understanding pyschiatrist, once I felt comfortable I was able to open up.
well, ya see...there isn't a 'test' they do....


actually, if it's a regular doc...then they can take a blood test[but i'm not sure if all offices do this] to see if you have a mental disorder.





anxiety can be very treatable. everyone has some form of it.


but some have a bigger issue....





they'll ask if you have anxiety/panic attacks...if so, they'd ask the symptoms of it. they'll ask you to describe the reason why you think you have anxiety...they'll ask if mentaldisorders run in the family...[doesn't matter if it's anxiety, mood disorders, personality disorders] they'll ask how long you've been experiencing this....





just simple ones. they'll try to assess if you have like...a social anxiety disorder or just...generalized anxiety disorder....i don't know if there's any other ones....





if the psych puts you on medicine, make sure it's an antidepressant like zoloft [best effective antidepressant for anxiety and even ocd!] and not xanax. xanax is an anti anxiety medication and those meds are very addictive....it's not wise to start someone off on that unless they have been on meds for awhile and they do not work or need a booster because they know exactly how much to take and udnerstand the concept of only taking it when needed.





my ex has social anxiety...i was actually the only one besides her mother she could fully open up to...[trying to get her back, stupid rumor complications] and she takes zoloft...sometimes takes xanax when she knows she's entering an anxiety phase...she does yoga also. it reeeeally helps her with anxiety. so definitely get a dvd or get into a yoga class.





don't worry. you'll be just fine. some people may need therapy, some one. i have ADHD and bipolar disorder...i only went a month in therapy when i was first diagnosed with BP, that was 11 months ago and i am glad to say i am stable as can be. i did it with medication...and myself!





just try to relax. music, drawing, painting, writing, yoga, LAUGHING[calms your nerves down actually...it's great to laugh when you are bummed or nervous, it's scientifically proven to work!] can all help you out!





good luck!
Closely examine the http://1-800-therapist.org/ website, and use the locators, in section 1, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and phone book. Personally, I'd opt for a psychologist who believes in only recommending minimal necessary medication, if at all, because they don't issue prescriptions, so are considerably less likely to be involved with the rewards, and inducements offered by sales reps from ';big pharma';: the large drug companies, to psychiatrists (there are links to, or articles on how psychiatry has become corrupted by money from drug companies, and ';how doctors are being manipulated';, in section 1: worth reading!). It's important to not only feel comfortable with your therapist, but also to know about their qualifications, and the type of therapy used (read section 1). Some people are in therapy for many years, and pay a small fortune in fees, so recognise that therapists may have a vested interest in keeping their patients coming back. It pays the rent, and permits them to feel that they are fulfilling a useful function in life. For this reason, I believe that, unless there is a need for a specific type of therapy, such as Dialectical Behavio(u)ral Therapy, for Borderline Personality Disorder, or EMDR therapy, for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, it is a good idea to start out with a psychologist who uses Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, which often can accomplish all it is capable of, in 6 months, and to fix that time limit in the first session. In that way, the therapist knows that there is only a limited window of opportuntiy to do what they can, and there is no unconscious motivation to attempt to draw things out. If, at the end of that time, you believe you could benefit from a little more therapy, then you can extend it, but I'd advise the therapist a few weeks before the final session, in case they are considering taking on a new patient, leaving you ';high, and dry'; committed, and without options, except to find someone else. Learn to assess, and rate your therapist, after a while: sometimes it's better to move on, and find someone who you feel can help you more, but not if you've just reached an unpleasant part of the therapy, which part of you would rather avoid. ~~~ There is a saying in the mental health field; ';if the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail';. So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to get rid of someone in 10 mns, so they can see the next patient.





With anxiolytics (anti-anxiety medication, such as Lexapro, or Paxil, which treat both anxiety and depression) you are only addressing the symptoms, and even then, often only temporarily, as your system becomes used to it, and you have to accept the risks of an increased suicide/homicide rate, aberrant behaviour, and side effects, such as possible sexual dysfunction (common). For those reasons, I recommend first trying the alternatives, which not only treat the symptoms, using herbal remedies, but the cause, as well, using EFT, and relaxation techniques. The antidepressants/anxiolytics will still be there, should the alternatives prove insufficient for you.





See anxiety treatments, at ezy build (below) in section 6. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; a half an hour, or an hour, possibly when you get home in the evening, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. You will have had your ';worry time'; for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: ';Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I?';. Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts and internal monologue (self talk), on pages 2, and 2L, to help you in this, if you find yourself backsliding into your former bad habits. Some people carry a wide rubber band in their pocket: put it on their wrist; stretch, and release, as a means of reinforcing it, and speeding up the process, re-pocketing it afterwards, but I regard this as being purely optional.





Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: ';Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself.'; Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available. Herbal remedies, such as St.John's wort, arctic root, or Valerian are often effective, but the idea is to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect.
she or he will talk to you about what your feelins are and trust me you have to find someone you really like someone who you feel can help and it will release the anxiety i have been through the smae thing to the point i could barely breath because the anxiety was the bad like gasping and i had a very good psychologist who took that all away along with a loving grandmother.
like what r u feeling 2day??just something like that..
Don't be anxious about it. Just go and you';ll find out. They won't bite. :) Relax
When I went to a psychiatrist I did not know I had an anxiety problem, so I told the receptionist when I made the appnt that I would only see the doctor for one visit..





Previously, one day after work, on my way home, I simply shut down more or less and had to get off the expressway and call my husband to come to my rescue...anyway, I didn't know what was happening to me. As a result, I went to a medical doctor, and he referred me to the psych...I don't know if there are specific questions asked to anxiety sufferers...take care....
Normally they might start by getting to know you, and find out abit about your background including any trauma eg, parents seperation, that sort of thing. over time they will give ask what situations you get anxious in, what you feel when you get anxious (symptoms and bodily sensations) and will give you stradegies and ways to cope and deal with them. In my case, i was to make a list of things that make me anxious, then we dealt with them one at a time. You'll be sweet as pie! Good on you for getting help! :)

Will My President, President Obama, invite Kim Jong Ill to come here for a Pancreatic replacement?

He is dying.Will My President, President Obama, invite Kim Jong Ill to come here for a Pancreatic replacement?
Probably and we will pay for it too....





After his statements about American Vets...this idiot has sunk to all time low. I can't believe we have a President that is not Patriotic and doesn't think of his people. I can't believe we spent 250,000 for him to go to a DAMN BROADWAY SHOW and then he complains about American Vets and calls THEM SELFISH? He never served this county and he isn't serving it now. What a JERK!





Bad press, including major mockery of the plan by comedian Jon Stewart, led to President Obama abandoning his proposal to require veterans carry private health insurance to cover the estimated $540 million annual cost to the federal government of treatment for injuries to military personnel received during their tours on active duty.





The President admitted that he was puzzled by the magnitude of the opposition to his proposal. ';Look, it's an all volunteer force,'; Obama complained..


';Nobody made these guys go to war. They had to have known and accepted the risks. Now they whine about bearing the costs of their choice? It doesn't compute...”











';I thought these were people who were proud to sacrifice for their country,'; Obama continued. ';I wasn't asking for blood, just money. With the country facing the worst financial crisis in its history, I'd have thought that the patriotic thing to do would be to try to help reduce the nation's deficit. I guess I underestimated the selfishness of some of my fellow Americans.';








HIS AZZ IS SITTING IN THE WHITE HOUSE BECAUSE OF THOSE VETS....What a JERK!Will My President, President Obama, invite Kim Jong Ill to come here for a Pancreatic replacement?
Yes, let's help keep our enemies alive. While we're at it, let's hand Osama bin Laden a gift basket and resurrect Hitler. I mean, Hitler is dead. Maybe he deserves to live again.
If you are trying to make a point, you certainly have if he can hold a Dictator until he gets his country back he will do anything.
Kim Jong III will have a successor and he will be just as mean and evil


as Kim Jong III~~you can bet the bank on this~~no the Kim will have to


take some green tea and hope for a miracle
At the hands of the U.S. health industry? I know Kim is supposed to be back on the axis of evil, but that seems like too cruel a fate, even for him. I'll say, no.
Why should he get anything? I have alots of medical things I need and I can't get them done. First I got kicked out of New York and now all this in LA.
let's bring kim over here for a transplant complements of the American people....let's give him PREZ OBUMMER'S PANCREAS...LET';S VOTE......
If Kim Jong Il can jump the border, he will have access to the best healthcare America has to offer. And it's all FREE!!!
Just wait, all Kim has to do is show up at an American hospital and say that he's an undocumented alien and he'll get the best care our taxes can provide.
Kim ain't that stupid. He knows what socialized medicine is like...

Im 15&i havnt gotten 1st period,im really small does that mean ill hava light flow?will it show thru my pants?

what happens when it does happen? if in school will people notice.. will i feel it?Im 15%26amp;i havnt gotten 1st period,im really small does that mean ill hava light flow?will it show thru my pants?
Probably yeah you will. It doesn't matter if you are big or small. Start taking these with you because you never know .








http://www.alldaysinfo.co.uk/Im 15%26amp;i havnt gotten 1st period,im really small does that mean ill hava light flow?will it show thru my pants?
don't worry, i got my first period when i was 15 1/2.


your size might not necessarily matter. i'm tall but very thin, and my period is just regular.


as for getting it at school, don't worry that much. when you get your period, it usually starts as brown discharge, but just be prepared. as long as you have a pad ready with you just in case you will be fine!

acne treatment

How will Obama handle the seating of New Ill Senator,?

A. will he support him.


B. trip him on the capital building steps.


C. Do every thing in his power to not seat him.


D, Do nothingHow will Obama handle the seating of New Ill Senator,?
If I was a betting man, I would say 50-1 on B.and C. This Blago deal


will be the Ghost to wonder over Obamas mind for the next 4 years.





Blago has got under Obamas skin, He can't get him out of the news


or the governors office fast enough, Dems don't have any damage


control on this one.How will Obama handle the seating of New Ill Senator,?
Obama has already spoken out against the appointment.





Here is his statement:





';Roland Burris is a good man and a fine public servant, but the Senate Democrats made it clear weeks ago that they cannot accept an appointment made by a governor who is accused of selling this very Senate seat. I agree with their decision, and it is extremely disappointing that Governor Blagojevich has chosen to ignore it.';
There isn't much he can do. Legally they have to seat the new Senator. Blago is still the Governor. He hasn't been convicted of anything. He was within the law, to do what he did. If Obama is the fair man, everyone says he is, he will do the right thing. It's not that guys fault, he just wants to be a Senator.
Below is a quote by President-elect Obama regarding this. Apparently, the Democratic Senate Leaders said weeks ago that they would not seat an appointment made by the Illinois Gov. since he was arrested on 12/9 for corruption charges and refuses to step down from his office.





';Roland Burris is a good man and a fine public servant, but the Senate Democrats made it clear weeks ago that they cannot accept an appointment made by a governor who is accused of selling this very Senate seat,'; Obama said in a statement. ';The best resolution would be for the governor to resign his office and allow a lawful and appropriate process of succession.';





http://www.suntimes.com/news/metro/blago鈥?/a>





It may be possible for The Senate to refuse to seat this appointment, by expelling him out after he is seated. It's a fine line of the law, but seems to be within the Constitution.


http://www.slate.com/toolbar.aspx?action鈥?/a>


http://www.slate.com/id/2207754/


http://balkin.blogspot.com/2008/12/can-s鈥?/a>
Obama is a very ';hands off'; kind of guy - Blago and Republicans are trying to put him into an uncomfortable position on this, but it's really not Obama's problem.


It's for the State Legislature to decide - not Obama.
E) Just like he will handle any other Senator nationwide.





You forgot ';E';, BRAIN.
Probably do nothing....His name is being thrown into a lot of this controversy so I would assume he would want to keep away from it if all possible.
He already said he didn't support the decision.
The president doesn't have anything to do with the appointing of senators.
He was quoted as stating he was disappointed with the appointment.
A